Making Love

Very often, when we speak of love, the significance of this term is reduced to the physical act of "making love", forgetting that sexual intercourse is only a complementary action and not an end in itself. We love someone because of the beauty of his or her entire being and not just because of the beauty of his or her body. By discovering the inner qualities, the feelings, the deep aspirations of that person, you will discover gradually the real beauty that lies within the other as a human being, while at the same time you help him or her to discover their own beauty.

This exchange of true values between two persons can evolve into a communion of souls: love. United in God, they can advance through life at giant steps, irradiating their love, which is renewed by this constant mutual exchange, reciprocally given and received, together.

Such love is solid and stable because it is based on the spirit rather than the body. In such union, sexual intercourse is a complement, needed for the fulfilment - in body and soul - of two persons who become one body. An act that creates.

If you love selfishly, just for your own pleasure or to satisfy your pride, you will isolate yourself and will come to an impasse, destroying everything that is good and beautiful. By acting that way, you will be treating the other person as an object or an accessory, and you will receive only as a supplement, while hurting the other person very deeply. The emptiness of that sort of relationship will soon become boredom, because love that is based only on physical attraction will only be superficial and temporary, since the beauty of the body is transient, while the beauty of the spirit grows with time.

Rather than "making love", try to give it instead, by giving yourself purely and truly. Then you will experience love in all its beauty, because it will be lived with... your heart.